Who's cooking?

Yup, it's me! I am a housewife and i cook everyday excluding days when i feel too wasted like last sunday when i just got home from a long travel to kl!

Being a housewife is one of my weird dreams! Wait.....it's not an ordinary housewife, but a superexcellent housewife, more alike my mother if possible. Right now, it is still too far to reach but at least i am trying.

My mother had been and still is my ultimate role model. What are things that she can't do? None!

She is a marvellous cook, she's a natural artist, she is a trusted teacher, she's a pleasant friends, she's a superwonderful mum, she's the best wife anyone can ask for, she is a caring daughter, she is a humble servant of Allah and she is everything I can imagine a perfect mother can be..huhu, i wish i can be her in so many ways.

Being extraordinary is not easy though. Plus, by being a women mean being too caring, and that on it's own is very demanding.

I am at the moment reading this very popular book entitled: Men from Mars, Women from Venus. It's indeed a life changing experience! I can't deny that it somehow has enlightened me.. and that's just 1/6 of the total content.

Anyway, it mentions about female-being, bornt a giver. She lives to gives others and sacrifice her own happiness (sometimes) to see others happy.

So, it's too demanding actually for women to be extraordinary and it's also dangerous for her relationship. As mentioned in that book, men are a natural self-ish (my own interpetation). They lake the awareness about other ppl other than their selves.

That's why, when a woman gives too much, and a man just fails to recognise the effort, it'll just turn the woman off.

However, coming to this point, as a muslim we learn the value of pahala and hereafter. Yes, in this world, we shall be so depressed and frustrated, but in hereafter, more regards awaits. That's only if we know and believe.

My resolution now is moderation! being an ordinary housewife and a good servant shall do the trick inshaAllah!

Regards,
RA

Can we work together...?

2 nights ago, i was reading a book entitled 'How to become a property millionaire' in front of the telly whilst my husband was studying in the computer room. I was so keen to finish the book because not just that it was very well written but also of its beneficial content.

Later, by my side, he was there. I was so immerse in the book that i failed to notice him walking pass me and sat next to me. He changed the channel and began the conversation.

"wow... you are so into the book!"

"Of course! well, i always like property ladder as i love interior designing and architecture" i looked at him and smile. He knew that too well too!

"If you are thinking about business, then just consider property investment. At least we can work together in here" I made the suggestion. That thought had been lingering in my brain for some times already, and i managed to convey it to him then. what a relief. He for once had mentioned about moving into business but i objected to his idea because i did not have that eager towards business... not until i found the book i mentioned earlier.

I did IB in KMB for 2 years and i took business as one of the minor subject. I did not have a choice, that's why i took it anyway. I dread every minutes of my time studying business because it wouldn't just stick to my brain..It just wouldn't, as simple as that! So, i made the conclusion that I am not a born-business minded!

Well, the main thing i want to share here was about how we seemed to be able to work together. While i was still drown with excitement, there was one section that i got confused about. It was a set of calculation and derivation. It's Maths! Owh, i wish i had the same brain i used have and be proud of back in my teenage years when maths was too simple to be moaning about..but not anymore. I am now with a different brain, maybe with just a tinge of maths, if any!huhu

He came to the picture. Well, i asked for his advice.

"Can you explain this to me?" I passed the book over to him.

He took some times to read and digest the content.

"Hmmm, well, this one.... and that one... They are....! Owh, wait, I can't make sense of it either!" He finally gave up..

While he was explaining, my brain was actually spinning so fast like a roller-coster, wanting to reach the most logical explaination. And i did come with something.

"what if he had set the amount of profit he wants before making out the figure?" I replied and before i managed to continue, he nodded..... He seemed to be enlightened for once.

"yurp, that's right...bla bla.." he completed the explaination!

wow! it occured to me that we can actually be a good couple and great partners! I was refering to business world. We can actually work together only and only if we want to!

regards
RA

RePosting: Ada apa dengan Bus?

I like this entry...it was a 3 years old posting!
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Satu hari, masa sedang masih menunggu bas di Stesyen Bus Piccadilly, kawan ku membuka bicara

"tunggu bus ni menekan jiwa raga betul!!"

Aku sengih. Mata ligat melihat orang lalu lalang. Aku balas balik "sabar....sabar..." sambil tersengih kambing lagi sekali.

"kalau rumah dekat, aku dah jalan balik...malas nak tunggu bas ni lama2" Kawan aku terus membebel. Kesian dia, seharian kelas dari pagi sampai petang, dan sekarang kene tunggu bus yg entah kenapa enggak mahu muncul2.

"ala...cam tak biasa menunggu jer ko nih." Aku yg mmg cool..(hekehk) bersuara. Terlintas di kotak fikiran ku akan sesuatu yg menarik.

"Eh, ko perasan tak? Tunggu bus ni ada persamaan ngan hidup. Matlamat hidup adalah rumah kita yg dituju. Perjalanan dan masa hidup adalah sepanjang jalan. Bus pulak adalah yg mampu bawa kita rumah dengan selamat. Kita tunggu bus, ibarat kita tunggu seorang insan bernama suami....."

"Fuh, mantap sungguh ko berkias. Tapi, betul jugak tuh. Kadang2 aku terpikir, yg mana satu jodoh kita? kalau dah ada org yg baik datang merisik, kenapa ditunggu2. Bukanker ada hadith dari Baginda Rasul, lebih kurang: jika ada orang lelaki yg baik, baik agamanya, cepatkanlah kawinkan anak perempuan tu." Berbicara kawan ku yg sikit benggang tadi. Alim jugak dia ni tau sikit sebanyak pasal hadith, alhamduliLlah.

"tau pun! So, tunggu jer bus mana2 yg datang.....tak kirala Stagecoach ker magicbus yg uzur, arriva, ataupun first.....supaya mudah, selamat dan cepat sampai pada destinasi yg dituju..Mengerti?" Aku jeling sinis pada dia yg sedang menyandar bosan pada tiang 'stand'.

"...yer la! mmg la aku kene pilih stagecoach, dah aku ada buspass. Lainla kalau ko nak belanja tambang bus arriva kesayangan ko tuh" jawab sahabat aku sambil memberi muka buruk ke arahku.

"haha......." aku tergelak besar dengan gelagat dia. Mata masih sibuk memandang hujung jalan, sambil mengharap ada kelibat bus biru,kuning, merah putih lambang stagecoach. Bulat mata ku bila akhirnya muncul juga yg dinanti dari tadi.

"yeay yeah......Akhirnya jejaka tampan bergaya sudah datang!!" meloncat gembira sahabat ku. Aku bangun melangkah ke tepi jalan.

"alamak..alamak.... NOT IN SERVICE!! aarrrghhhhh......bengang..!!!" sambung dia. "aku dah tak tahan......"

"tula....sapa suruh tunggu jejaka tampan bergaya tapi tak beriman??"aku sampuk sambil menepuk bahunya. "jap lagi kot!"

Selang tidak lama, bus biru gelap, usang tiba di perhentian itu. Kami melangkah sambil mengucap syukur. Walaupun magicbus itu selalu sajer kami kutuk kerana penuh bau masam (tak semua pun..hehe), bunyi-bunyian, dan getaran, tapi setidak2nya, dia sanggup memberikan kami keselamatan, kecepatan, dan kepastian untuk tuju ker rumah yg tersayang.

(hanya rekaan semata....dialog dihyperbolakan dan beza dari dialog asal....hehe)

wassalam

Support

A few weeks if i am not mistaken, my husband mentioned about my inactive blog.

"why don't you write things that you do each day...at least keep you occupied with something". He said readily.

I thought about blogging once more but the urge to pour everything into wording is just to demanding for my brain...haha! What an excuse...

Well, i used to make matter too complicated...once example is by making sure the posting i am about to post shall not have any mistake whatsoever.... or that post should at least benefit one people if not more...and most importantly, I have to satisfy with it in all aspect....Yes, i was too careful and perfectionist..(although i don't think i am that kind of person!, owh, well...maybe)

"I dont like thinking what people think of me..That's why i am active no more!" I replied.

hmmm....i knew exactly what he's about to answer me back...

"If that's so, then i have nothing more to say!" he glanced cynically at me.

"huuh...." i made a long face. I was aware that he had a point. I do not want to stay home doing nothing, so why not keep some notes of events like i used to do when i was little.

Some good few years back, it was during my 13th birthday, my beloved sister had given me a cute pink journal. It has a small lock by the side. It was a treasure.

Over the years, i kept my daytime preoccupied with books and by nightfall, i would come to the journal, jotting every significant details of events on that day. The most exciting part was obviously my days at school. I had a few SA back in high school and that would include my husband ..hahaha. So darling, if you read this entry, you may want to search for that small treasure of mine to see what impression i had on you years ago...

Eventually, i stopped writing once i got to KMB. I did once in a while open it but just to keep some notes in for example names of my future children...ahaks "yes, that was advance, but there's nothing wrong for being overprepared isn't it?". I brought the journal to manchester too and back to Malaysia again after 6years there. It was with me for as long as i can remember since the moment i knew a little about life till now.

I hope i do not bored anyone (if any) yet. Till next time which i shall not promise..

ps - not bothered to check spelling or grammer....hentam sajerr
RA

Unraveling how children become bilingual so easily

WASHINGTON – The best time to learn a foreign language: Between birth and age 7. Missed that window?

New research is showing just how children's brains can become bilingual so easily, findings that scientists hope eventually could help the rest of us learn a new language a bit easier.

"We think the magic that kids apply to this learning situation, some of the principles, can be imported into learning programs for adults," says Dr. Patricia Kuhl of the University of Washington, who is part of an international team now trying to turn those lessons into more teachable technology.

Each language uses a unique set of sounds. Scientists now know babies are born with the ability to distinguish all of them, but that ability starts weakening even before they start talking, by the first birthday.

Kuhl offers an example: Japanese doesn't distinguish between the "L" and "R" sounds of English — "rake" and "lake" would sound the same. Her team proved that a 7-month-old in Tokyo and a 7-month-old in Seattle respond equally well to those different sounds. But by 11 months, the Japanese infant had lost a lot of that ability.

Time out — how do you test a baby? By tracking eye gaze. Make a fun toy appear on one side or the other whenever there's a particular sound. The baby quickly learns to look on that side whenever he or she hears a brand-new but similar sound. Noninvasive brain scans document how the brain is processing and imprinting language.

Mastering your dominant language gets in the way of learning a second, less familiar one, Kuhl's research suggests. The brain tunes out sounds that don't fit.

"You're building a brain architecture that's a perfect fit for Japanese or English or French," whatever is native, Kuhl explains — or, if you're a lucky baby, a brain with two sets of neural circuits dedicated to two languages.

It's remarkable that babies being raised bilingual — by simply speaking to them in two languages — can learn both in the time it takes most babies to learn one. On average, monolingual and bilingual babies start talking around age 1 and can say about 50 words by 18 months.

Italian researchers wondered why there wasn't a delay, and reported this month in the journal Science that being bilingual seems to make the brain more flexible.

The researchers tested 44 12-month-olds to see how they recognized three-syllable patterns — nonsense words, just to test sound learning. Sure enough, gaze-tracking showed the bilingual babies learned two kinds of patterns at the same time — like lo-ba-lo or lo-lo-ba — while the one-language babies learned only one, concluded Agnes Melinda Kovacs of Italy's International School for Advanced Studies.

While new language learning is easiest by age 7, the ability markedly declines after puberty.

"We're seeing the brain as more plastic and ready to create new circuits before than after puberty," Kuhl says. As an adult, "it's a totally different process. You won't learn it in the same way. You won't become (as good as) a native speaker."

Yet a soon-to-be-released survey from the Center for Applied Linguistics, a nonprofit organization that researches language issues, shows U.S. elementary schools cut back on foreign language instruction over the last decade. About a quarter of public elementary schools were teaching foreign languages in 1997, but just 15 percent last year, say preliminary results posted on the center's Web site.

What might help people who missed their childhood window? Baby brains need personal interaction to soak in a new language — TV or CDs alone don't work. So researchers are improving the technology that adults tend to use for language learning, to make it more social and possibly tap brain circuitry that tots would use.

Recall that Japanese "L" and "R" difficulty? Kuhl and scientists at Tokyo Denki University and the University of Minnesota helped develop a computer language program that pictures people speaking in "motherese," the slow exaggeration of sounds that parents use with babies.

Japanese college students who'd had little exposure to spoken English underwent 12 sessions listening to exaggerated "Ls" and "Rs" while watching the computerized instructor's face pronounce English words. Brain scans — a hair dryer-looking device called MEG, for magnetoencephalography — that measure millisecond-by-millisecond activity showed the students could better distinguish between those alien English sounds. And they pronounced them better, too, the team reported in the journal NeuroImage.

"It's our very first, preliminary crude attempt but the gains were phenomenal," says Kuhl.

But she'd rather see parents follow biology and expose youngsters early. If you speak a second language, speak it at home. Or find a play group or caregiver where your child can hear another language regularly.

"You'll be surprised," Kuhl says. "They do seem to pick it up like sponges."

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EDITOR's NOTE — Lauran Neergaard covers health and medical issues for The Associated Press in Washington.

The Wedding

Alhamdulillah..
Praise be to Allah swt, for letting me live up to this moment.

Alhamdulillah...
Praise be to Allah swt for granting my wishes and prayers..

Alhamdulillah..
Praise again to Him for His lovely presents, one after another....

Alhamdulillah..
for my worldly degree.....
for my wedding..
for my loving husband...
for my new life with him..
for all the gifts...

Alhamdulillah...

Fatimaa dear

All in a sudden, i have this urge to post another entry today. Funny but true, i have no idea how long has it been since i last opened this blog. i would say almost a year ago probably. I was so determined back then to commit to update this blog, claiming it will be a revival point in my career as an amateur blogger..hik. Verily, "Istiqamah" is the hardest skill to turn to habit.

Now, I can't stop thinking of my dear friend Fatimaa who is most likely still wondering where has Rose been hiding this week. She is a dear friend, concern and caring as a good sister could be. Surprisingly, she's 3 years younger than i am.

"Rose, you need to be more open, be dependent to other people" she said last friday in my room. "Everyone thought i was dictating you". Owh, dear dear Fatimaa, she was hurt when another friend of us said she was pushing me out socialising.

The day before, we talked and got to know one another. I was surprised to learn that she had a better and proper Islamic teaching than myself and she knew a lot about Islam. When she saw my surprised face she remarked "Why? You think you're a better Muslim than i am?". Yes, it was harsh but she smile afterward.

I am falling in love with RBH already, not just because of the hospital itself but the people around me too, being such lovely and charming. In the flat, there were a mixture of people - syrian, sudanis, Malaysian, Indian, Somalian, Britons, and African-Carribean. Everyone was lovable! Thank you Allah for such companions. O Allah, please make my prayers come true. O Allah The Most Merciful and All-Knowing.

One thrilling summer week....

Summer is my favourite season of the four... Lively and energetic!

This very moment, bright light is showering my glassy window generously, bringing joy and happiness to the room. I always find a great relief to close my eyes, have a big smile and breath the air very deeply metaphor as a greeting for the sunny day. One...two....three..! Huh, AlhamduliLlah, Thank you Allah for letting me have this pleasure again and again for the past 25 years.

In a way, Allah swt is cheering me up for this week will truly be a heart-throbbing week for me ever.

Just going through one phase in my life, back in 1989. An image of a young bright chubby girl, with a dark bushy hair, wearing all boy clothings, jumping all over recklessly in front of the whole family members saying "i want to be a doctor, i want to be a doctor!!"... Yup, that was me alright. Who ever instill that idea into my brain, i have no clue what so ever. I was so into it, all my friends were made aware of my big ambition. "Rosma is a doctor, Along a lawyer..." My bestfriend Nurul (we called her nuyu) used to make that remark. I can't remember what was her ambition back then. May be a doctor, since she always gave me bout of injections whenever we played 'doctor-doctor' together.

Hehehe, i missed every moment of my childhood days. Alhamdulillah, now, Along (her real name was Anis) is a lawyer, and Nuyu, a pharmacist. I am on my way to my dream. Yet, the true real point to find the answer is this Friday, 13th June 2008. Owh...how fast the time has been for me. That's the reason i'm so thrilled yet numbed this week.

Help me Allah, help me o Allah to be patient, and submit to your will whole-heartedly.

Amin

Qunut Nazilah

ERTINYA:

Ya Allah ya tuhan kami, sesungguhnya kami menjadikan kamu sebagai pendinding kepada musuh-musuh kami, dan kami berlindung daripada kejahatan mereka, Ya Allah ya tuhan kami, binasakan kesempurnaan mereka, dan pecah belahkan jemaah ( parti ) mereka, dan gagapkan perkataan mereka ( melalutkan mereka ), goyahkan pendirian mereka, dan hantarkan anjing ke atas mereka dari anjing-anjing Mu wahai tuhan yang garang, wahai tuhan yang berani, wahai tuhan yang berdendam, ya Allah,ya Allah,ya Allah.

Wahai tuhan yang menurunkan al Kitab ( al Quran ), dan yang menjalankan awan, Tuhan yang menghancurkan tentera Al Ahzab, hancurkan mereka dan berilah kemenangan kepada kami. Amiin.


PENERANGAN
Doa Qunut Nazilah dibaca ketika kaum muslimin terkena bencana, ancaman, penganiayaan, penindasan musuh-musuh Allah dan musuh kaum Muslimin.

Seperti dikisahkan dalam Hadits Riwayat Bukhari dan Muslim, Rasulullah SAW pernah melakukan qunut selama satu bulan untuk mendoakan pembunuh-pembunuh para sahabatnya di Bir Al-Maunah.

Dari Abu Hurairah RA :
"Sesungguhnya bila ingin mendoakan seseorang, Nabi Muhammad SAW membacakan qunut sesudah ruku' (Hr. Bukhari dan Ahmad bin Hambal).

Doa Qunut Nazilah dibaca setiap sholat fardhu jahriyah (mahdzab Hanafi), sedangkan selain madzhab Hanafi, Doa Qunut Nazilah dibaca setiap kali sholat fardhu.

Mari kita bacakan doa ini untuk saudara-saudara kita kaum muslimin dimana saja berada, khususnya yang sedang terkena ancaman, penganiayaan, dan penindasan musuh-musuh Allah.

Love

"Wahai orang beriman, masuklah ke dalam Islam sepenuhnya dan jgnlah kamu ikut jejak langkah syaitan" Al-Baqarah(2): 208



Pabila berbicara tentang cinta, pasti ada yang tersenyum, terpikat untuk mendengar malahan ada yang terus membuat andaian apa yang selalu dikaitkan dengan ungkapan keramat itu. Adakah benar angkapan yang kita dengar itu? Complete kah ia? Malahan ungkapan itu sangat luas pengertiannya, tetapi sedikit sahaja yang sedar.

Bila aku membaca satu novel berjudul Ayat-ayat Cinta beberapa minggu yang lalu, baru aku dicelikkan dengan erti kata Cinta yang luas itu. Walaupun jelas watak-watak yang dilakar adalah terlampau sempurna, aku kira ia penting supaya menjadi contoh terbaik bagi mendidik diri kita menjejak langkah mereka. Kerana tujuan akhir kita semua adalah sama, yaitu untuk mendapatkan CINTA AGUNG dari yang Maha Pencipta.

Aku bukan mahu berkisah tentang buku ini kerana tidak mampu diulas untuk memberikan maksud yang sama. Apa yang boleh aku katakan hanya Iqra'. Bacalah bila ada kelapangan.

Beli disini
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Download PDF disini

Wassalam

Jual-beli yang tiada Rugi

BismiLlahirahmanirahim

"Sesungguhnya Allah telah membeli dari orang mukmin itu harta dan jiwa mereka dengan balasan syurga, mereka berjuang diJalan Allah lalu mereka terbunuh dan dibunuh, seperti yang dijanjikan didalan Taurat, Injil dan Al-Quran. Siapakah yang lebih menepati janji selain Allah? Sebab itu bergembiralah diatas perjanjian yang telah ada antara kamu denganNya dan Itulah keuntungan yang besar!" At-Taubah(9):111

AlhamduliLlah, semalam sempat menonton dokumentari berkisar Salahuddin Al-Ayyubi di Youtube.



Menarik konklusi yang dibuat pada akhir video (part 3), stop waiting, just wake up!

Teringat lagi satu peringatan dari PenciptaKu Allah alMalik,
"Ya AyyuhaLlazi na amanu - Wahai orang beriman!"
"Man yartaddaminkum anDinih - barang siapa yang murtad (keluar) dari agamanya"
"Fasaufaya'tiLlahu biqaumin - maka Allah akan menggantikan mereka dgn satu kaum"
"Yuhibbuhum wa yuhibbunah - yang Allah mengasihi mereka, dan mrk mengasihi Allah"
"Azillatin Alal mukminin - berlembut sesama mukminin"
"na aizzatin alal kafirin - bertegas dgn kafirin"
"Yujahidu na fisabilillah - mrk berjuang difisabiliLlah"
"wala yakhofu nalaumatala imh - mereka tidak takut celaan org yg mencela"
"Zalika phathluLlahi yu'tihimanyasya'- itulah kurniaan Allah pd sesiapa yg dikehendakiNya"
"wallahu wa si'un adzim - sesungguhnya Allah yg Maha luas pemberianNya dan Maha mengetahui"

Al-Maidah(5): 54

"Innama waliyyukumuLlahu - Sesgghnya wali(penolong) kamu adalah Allah"
"warasuluhu - dan rasul"
"walladzi na amanu - dan orang yg beriman"
"ladzi na yuqimussolah - yang bersolat"
"tawudzakat - mengeluarkan zakat"
"ta wahum roqi'un - dan sujud padaNya"

Al-Maidah(5): 55

"Waman yatawalLaLahu wa Rasulahu - dan barangsiapa mengambil Allah dan RasulNya"
"waLladzhi na Amanu - dan orang2 beriman sebagai penolong mereka"
"fainna HidzbaLlahu humul ghalibun - maka HIzbuLlah itu yang akan MENANG"

Al-Maidah(5): 56

wassalam

How to Win Friends and Influence People

Buku motivasi yang dikarang oleh Dale Carnegie ini pertama kali diterbitkan pada 1937 dan ia berkisar teknik praktikal untuk menguasai kemahiran berkomunikasi serta teknik untuk menjadi seorang ketua yang disegani dan disayangi. Kajian yang memakan masa lebih kurang 10 tahun ini merupakan topik perbincangan yang ditunggu-tunggu masyarakat Amerika yang dahagakan ilmu pada ketika itu setelah lebih daripada 2500 orang penduduk Amerika telah menyertai forum pertama yang dikendalikan Dale Carnegie pada tahun 1935 untuk membincangkan teknik seperti yang dicatatkannya didalam buku ini.

Terdapat 4 jenis keperluan komunikasi efektif yang diketengahkan didalam buku ini: 1. Bagaimana menguasai orang lain 2. Kaedah untuk orang lain menyukai kita 3. Kaedah untuk memenangi pemikiran orang lain kepada idea kita 4. Cara untuk menjadi ketua yang mampu merubah pengikutnya tanpa menimbulkan kekecewaan dan penolakan.

Untuk situasi pertama, Dale Carnegie telah menyenaraikan 3 teknik yang berkesan bagi menguasai orang lain baik dalam urusan perniagaan mahupun dalam kehidupan seharian. Apa yang perlu dilakukan bagi mendapat kepercayaan orang lain, kita perlu menjaga pergaulan dan percakapan seperti;
1. Tidak mengkritik atau mempersenda tindakan atau tingkah-laku seseorang. Ini adalah kerana telah menjadi fitrah manusia untuk bertindak membela diri demi menjaga maruah dan harga diri.
2. Memberikan kata-kata penghargaan yang jujur dan ikhlas. amat berkesan kerana ia secara tidak langsung membuatkan orang tersebut merasai dihargai.
3. Merangsang seseorang melakukan sesuatu dengan kemahuanya sendiri. Tidak bijak untuk kita memberikan pendapat sekiranya pihak lawan tidak berkeinginan yang sama.

Situasi kedua adalah bagi menjadikan kita orang yang disukai dan mudah didekati mempunyai 6 prinsip iaitu dengan:
1. Benar-benar tertarik untuk mendalami seseorang yang lain. Sesiapa sahaja akan merasakan diri mereka menarik dan penting jika diperlakukan demikian.
2. Memberikan senyuman seikhlas mungkin
3. Mengingati nama mereka.
4. Menjadi pendengar yang baik dan setia.
5. Membiarkan mereka bercakap berkenaan kesukaan mereka.
6. Membuatkan mereka merasa penting (sejujur mungkin)

Situasi ketiga pula merupakan kaedah-kaedah yang telah dibuktikan dapat memenangi pemikiran orang lain kepada idea kita. Terdapat 12 kaedah kesemuanya seperti berikut:
1. Mengelakkan diri dari turut bertikam lidah. Tiada penyelesaian dengan pertelingkahan malahan membawa kepada perasaan benci dan tertindas. Cuba bersetuju dengan tanggapan pihak lawan sebelum memberikan pendapat kita.
2. Tidak sekali-kali menyatakan “Engkau Silap/Salah” pada pendapat orang lain. Sebaliknya, cuba menghormati pendapat itu sebelum memberikan pendapat sendiri.
3. Mengakui “Saya Silap/Salah” terlebih dahulu jika melakukan kesalahan dan lakukan secara jujur.
4. Memulakan bicara dengan mesra. Orang yang sedang marah juga akan sejuk hatinya jika disapa sebegitu.
5. Cuba mendapatkan persetujuan atau kata-kata “Benar” dari pihak lawan seawal perbincangan. Ini akan memberi ruang kepada orang tersebut terbuka hati untuk mendengar pendapat kita.
6. Membenarkan seseorang lain menguasai perbualan. Menjadi pendengar yang baik sebetulnya lebih memberikan faedah.
7. Cuba sedarkan seseorang itu bahawa merekalah yang telah menyumbang kepada idea perbincangan.
8. Menganalisa situasi mengikut pandangan pihak lawan. Cuba letakkan diri pada tempat mereka.
9. Menunjukkan simpati kepada kemahuan dan pendapat orang lain. Ini sebenarnya adalah fitrah manusia untuk mendapat simpati dalam banyak keadaan.
10. Menyatakan permohonanatau permintaan dengan cara/alasan yang lebih terhormat.
11. Menyampaikan idea dalam bentuk yang lebih menarik dan unik.
12. Menyampaikan idea berbentuk cabaran. Manusia cenderung kepada pertandingan untuk membuktikan mereka lebih penting dari yang lain.

Kaedah terakhir adalah untuk menjadi seorang ketua yang mampu merubah manusia tanpa menjejaskan ketaatan dan kepercayaan serta mengakibatkan kekecewaan. Dale Carnegie telah menyenaraikan 9 prinsip utama seperti berikut:
1. Mulakan dengan pujian serta penghargaan secara jujur sebelum menegur.
2. Menegur kesalahan seseorang secara tidak langsung.
3. Mulakan berbicara tentang kesalahan sendiri sebelum menegur kesalahan mereka.
4. Tidak menyuruh dalam bentuk arahan tetapi dalam bentuk pertanyaan.
5. Menyelamatkan air muka seseorang.
6. Memberikan penghargaan pada setiap peningkatan
7. Memberikan seseorang itu status yang baik untuk menjadi pendorong kepada perubahan dalam hidup
8. Memberikan sokongan bahawa kesilapan atau kekurangan yang lalu mudah dan mampu diatasi dan diperbaiki
9. Membuatkan mereka seronok melalukan sesuatu yang kita cadangkan itu.

Semua ini akan hanya menjadi cadangan bagi menguasai teknik komunikasi yang paling efektif tetapi tidak mampu diterjemahkan dalam perlakuan kita jika tidak dipraktikkan berulang kali dalam kehidupan seharian. Selamat beramal.

Muslim Contribution to Medical Science

It has been established by modern historical research that the earliest human civilization dates back to about 7,000 years. Egypt and Babylon were the first countries to feel the impact of civilization, which was disseminated through various other countries including Assyria, China, India, Persia and Phoenicia, ultimately reaching Greece where it found the most congenial atmosphere for its adequate development. Romans inherited their knowledge from such eminent Greek intellectuals as Socrates and Plato, Aristotle and Pericles, Demosthenes and Sophocles. The downfall of the Roman Empire caused intellectual stagnation and the storm of barbarism which swept over the world presented the greatest threat to cultural progress, which would have been in danger of total extinction, had it not been saved by the timely intervention of the Arabs. "The Arabs" says Humboldt, "were admirably situated to act the part of mediators, and to influence the nations from the Eupharates to the Guadalquivir and Mid-Africa. Their unexampled intellectual activity marks a distinct epoch in the history of the world."'

The golden era of Muslims' achievement in the field of scientific and philosophical research, began in 900 A. D. and lasted for two centuries. The physicians and scientists of the Islamic world having stood on the firm foundation of Greek science began to rely upon their own resources and to develop from within.

Jabir known as the father of Arabic alchemy was a mystic and was known as 'Ceber' in mediaeval Latin literature. He was closely attached to the family of the Barmekides, the ministerial dynasty of the Abbasid Caliphate. He had founded a laboratory at Kufa, whose ruins were discovered 200 years later. Sir Thomas Arnold pays eloquent tribute to this great Muslim scientist when he says, "At the very dawn stands the figure of a Muslim whose shadow lies athwart the science of the middle ages in the orient as in the Occident."

Al-Razi:(Latin Rhazes 865--925 A.D.) was born at Rayy (Persia) in 865 A. D. "Rhazes" says Max Meyerhof, "was undoubtedly the greatest physician of the Islamic world and one of the great physicians of all time."' In his young age he practised as an alchemist but later he devoted himself exclusively to the development of medical science both in theory and practice. He wrote Kitab Al-Mansuri (called Liber Almartsoris in Latin) a 10 volume treatise dealing with Greek medicine which was published in several editions. According to an European writer, "His erudition was all embracing and his scientific output remarkable, amounting to more than 200 books, half of which are medical.' His outstanding work, Al-Judari-wal-Hasbah a book dealing with smallpox and measles is one of the most authentic books on the subject even to the present day. It was translated into Latin and other European languages and was published more than forty times between 1498 and 1866 A.D. It contains detailed information regarding the treatment of postules. The greatest achievement of Al-Razi in the realm of medical science is his celebrated work Al-Hawi (Latin Continens) the most comprehensive encyclopaedia of medicine ever written by a medical man, which runs into 20 volumes. This book was translated into Latin by the Sicilian Jewish physician, Faraj Ibn Salim, on the order of Charles I, King of Sicily, and named Continens. "Its influence on European medicine was thus very considerable," says Max Meyerhof. Al-Razi has also contributed to gynecology, obstetrics, ophthalmology and has written valuable treatise on the treatment of some common diseases in the East including stones in the bladder and kidneys. He was also an eminent surgeon and is the inventor of 'Seton' in surgery. He settled in Baghdad where he founded a hospital named Bimaristan. He selected its site by hanging pieces of raw meat in various localities and choosing the spot where they showed least signs of putrefaction.

Ali Ibn Al-Abbas-al-Majusi known in the west as Haly Abbas, who died in 994 A. D., was the author of a celebrated work Kitab-al-Maliki known as Liber Regius in Latin, an excellent and compact encyclopaedia dealing with both the theory and practice of medical science. It is less voluminous than Al-Razi's Hawi and it remained a standard book until it was superseded by the Canon the masterpiece of the great Avicenna. Perhaps Majusi was the first physician to write about the capillary system and to describe accurately the way in which a child is born.

Abu Ali Al-Husain-al-Sina, (980--1037 A.D.) known as Avicenna in the west was one of the greatest intellectuals of the Islamic world who is ranked second only to Aristotle, the greatest mind the world has ever produced. His intellectual achievement as a physician is less remarkable than his achievements as a philosopher and physicist. He had visited the court of Noah the II, the Samanid Ruler of Bokhara who allowed him to use his well equipped library. His gigantic work AlQanun-Fil-Tib known as Canon in Latin is the culmination and masterpiece of Arab systematisation. It is a medical encyclopaedia dealing with 760 drugs, as well as with general medicine, simple drugs, and diseases affecting all parts of the body. It is particularly concerned with Pathology and Pharmacopoeia and was translated into Latin in the 12th century by Gerard of Cremona. The popularity of this excellent book may be gauged by the fact that during the last 30 years of the 15th century it was printed 16 times and in the 16th century 20 times in various European languages. Publications including sections from this work as well as commentaries on it in various languages of both the east and West are innumerable. According to a celebrated western writer, "Probably no medical work ever written has been so much studied ......Hence his influence on European medicine has been overwhelming."' Sir Jadu Nath Sircar, the celebrated Indian Historian pays eloquent tribute to Ibn Sina when he says, "Avicenna was the greatest intellectual giant of the middle ages."" He discovered the spreading of disease through water. Avicenna was responsible for elevating Islamic medicine to its zenith, and his portrait as well as that of AI-Razi still adorns the grand Hall of the Faculty of Medicine in the University of Paris.

Abu-Al-Jarrah-Al-Zahrawi known in Latin as Abul Casis who died in 1013 was a great surgeon who wrote AE-Tasrif containing 30 sections, the last of which deals with surgery. Muslim physicians at that time did not pay any attention to surgery and it was a totally neglected field. Al-Tasrif is fully illustrated with sketches of surgical instruments and it profoundly contributed to the development of surgery both in the East and the West. It was translated into several European languages and the famous French surgeon Guy de Chauliac benefitted from one of its Latin translations. Stanley Lane Poole in his celebrated work The Moors in Spain pays eloquent tribute to the part played by Spanish Muslims in the awakening of the West, when he says, "Every branch of science was seriously studied there, and medicine received more and greater additions by the discoveries of the doctors and surgeons of Andalusia than it had gained during all the centuries that had elapsed since the days of Galen."'

Ali Ibn Isa of Baghdad known in Latin as Jesu Occulist has written an excellent treatise on ophthalmology, a branch of medicine dealing with eye diseases. It was translated into Latin and was considered the authoritative work on eye diseases in Europe till the middle of the 18th century.
Abu Ali al-Hasan (965-1020 A.D.) known as Alhazen in the west is recognised as the greatest authority on optics the world has ever produced. He was born at Basra and later joined the service of a Fatimid Caliph of Egypt, where he was assigned to discover the method of regulating the inundation of the river Nile. He could not achieve this objective, hence he had to remain underground till the death of the Caliph. He has made valuable contributions to the development of physics and medicine, but his outstanding achievement is in the realm of optics. He has corrected the theories of Euclid and Ptolemy on the subject. His Opticae Thesaurus influenced such great writers on optics as Roger Bacon, Leonard da Vinci, John Kepler and all mediaeval western writers, who base their works on the research of Alhazen. The two greatest luminaries of the Islamic world Ibn Sina and Al-Beruni shared and fully endorsed Alhazen's opinion that, 'It is not the ray that leaves the eye and meets the object that gives rise to vision. Rather the form of the perceived object passes into the eye and is transmitted by its transparent body.

Ibn Rushd known as Averroes in the west who died in 1198 in Morocco is the greatest Aristotelian philosopher, He is the author of 16 medical works of which one Kulliyat Fil Tib dealing with general rules of medicine was translated into Latin as Colliget. It was printed several times in Europe. Averroes is one of the most outstanding literary figures that Islamic Spain has produced and he was instrumental in clearing away the darkness of illiteracy that had enveloped Europe.

Ibn Katina, the Moorish physician who died in 1369 A.D. is the author of excellent book on the plague. A severe plague which ravaged Alemaria in Spain in 1348-49 A.D. caused the celebrated physician to write a treatise on the plague which was superior to all earlier works on the subject. This book was edited and translated in Europe in the 15th century A.D. and revealed the contagious character of the plague and its remedies which were not known to Greek physicians.

The study of medicine in Europe began at Salerno (Sicily) where Constantine the African, a disciple of an Arab Physician organised the first medical school. The medical school of Montpellier soon followed suit, which was founded on the pattern of Cordova under the guidance of Jewish doctors. Other schools on the same lines were opened at Pisa and later at Padua (Italy) where Canon of Avicenna and the Surgery of Abul Qasim remained until the 17th century the text books of medical science throughout Europe. Robert Briffault writes, "The Pharmacopoeia created by the Arabs is virtually that which but for the recent- Synthetic and organotherapic--Apic preparations, is in use at the present day; our common drugs, such as nux vomica, Senna, Rknbarb, aconite, gention, myrrh, calomel and structure of our prescriptions, belong to the Arabic medicine.

Tarbiayatul Aulad I

1. Mulakanlah hidup anak anda dengan nama panggilan yang baik. -
bila anak kita dipanggil dengan nama yang tak baik, atau nama dah baik
tapi bagi pulak gelaran yang tak baik, itu akan menyebabkan anak jadi
malu dan rendah diri. Saya ingat lagi kat sekolah dulu org panggil saya
mak enon. Malu sangat... rasa mcm tanak gi sekolah pun ade. Apatah pulak
kalau yang memanggil nama tak elok tu mak bapak sendri. Lagi la malu
kan? Dalam Islam pun sangat digalakkan kita bg nama yang baik untuk
anak2.



2. Berikan anak anda pelukkan setiap hari - ada kajian yang
menunjukkan anak yang dipeluk setiap hari akan mempunyai kekuatan IQ yg
lebih kuat daripada anak yang jarang dipeluk. Bila kita peluk dia setiap
hari esp seorg mak, anak kita tau yang kita sayangkan dia. Dia akan tau
kita akan jadi penyokong dia paling kuat. Dia akan sedar bahawa kita
sentiasa ada jika dia kurang berjaya. Emosi dia akan terbela.



3. Pandanglah anak anda dengan pandangan kasih sayang - pandangan
ini akan membuatkan anak anda lebih yakin diri apabila berhadapan dengan
persekitaran. Memang la ada masa kita perlu marah tapi jgnla buat muka
marah sampai kawan tu takut nak dekat dgn kita langsung. Kesian kat
budak. Namanya pun budak...



4. Berikan peneguhan setiap kali anak anda berbuat kebaikan -
Berilah pujian, pelukkan, ciuman, hadiah ataupun sekurang-kurangnya
senyuman untuk setiap kebaikan yang dilakukannya. Bila tiap kali kita
appreciate dia, dia akan rasa nak buat lagi dan nak buat lebih baik
lagi. Ini la namanya motivasi...



5. Janganlah mengharapkan anak anda yang belum matang itu melakukan
sesuatu perbuatan baik secara berterusan - mereka hanya
kanak-kanak yang sedang berkembang. Perkembangan mereka buatkan mereka
ingin mengalami setiap perkara termasuklah berbuat silap. Sebenarnya
mereka akan belajar lebih banyak lagi dari kesilapan yang mereka
lakukan.



6. Apabila anda berhadapan dengan masalah kerja dan keluarga,
pilihlah keluarga - Bila ada masalah eloklah kita selesaikan masalah
keluarga yang terdahulu. Kerana, seseorang tu akan lebih tenang kalau
takde masalah keluarga. Anak2 perlu diberi keutamaan kerana mereka
sedang membesar dan proses ini akan terus berlalu dan tak akan kembali
jadi jgnlah cemarkan keperibadian mereka dengan sikap mementingkan diri
kita.



7. Di dalam membesarkan dan mendidik anak-anak, janganlah tuan/puan
mengeluh - Keluhan akan membuatkan anak-anak merasakan diri mereka
beban. Ini akan menyebabkan mereka menjauhi kita. Kalau kita tak mau
sunyi di hari tua, jgnlah sunyikan mereka pada usia muda mereka.



8. Dengarlah cerita anak anda, cerita itu tak akan dapat anda
dengari lagi pada masa akan datang. Tunggu giliran anda untuk bercakap.
Ini akan mengajar anak anda tentang giliran untuk bercakap. Seronok
sebenarnya layan bebudak bercakap. Adik saya pun dalam kategori budak
lagi, kalau sesekali layan dia cakap rasa mcm kelakar. Saya penah jumpa
dgn kawan anak saya umur baru tiga thn tapi mulut boleh tahan, rasa mcm
tak logic je tapi seronok. Ala, mcm aznil Tanya budak tu, Tiger Wood
berasal dari mana, pastu budak tu jawab Zoo... untuk kita sendiri, ini
adalah satu hiburan yang takleh dibeli di tempat lain.



9. Tenangkan anak anda setiap kali mereka memerlukannya - ada
masa2nya mereka akan gundah gulana. Ada masa mungkin diorg berselisih
dgn kawan. Ada masa mungkin dia dah tercederakan jiran. Jadi, kita
bantulah sedaya kita supaya mereka tidak rasa sendirian dalam
menyelesaikan masalah yang bagi kita kecik tapi tu mungkin masalah mega
bg diorg.



10. Tunjukkan kepada anak anda bagaimana cara untuk menenangkan diri .
Mereka akan menirunya. Jgn kita sendiri kelam kabut bila ada yang
menimpa. Jgn kita tunjuk yang kita gelabah. Be cool!! Setiap masalah
yang telah Tuhan takdirkan pada kita ada penyelesaiannya. Jadi, jgn
gabra2.



11. Buatkan sedikit persediaan untuk anak-anak menyambut harijadinya.
Sediakanlah hadiah harijadi yang unik walaupun harganya murah. Keunikan
akan membuatkan anak anda belajar menghargai. Anak2 yg dtg daripada
persekitaran yang menghargai akan belajar menghargai orang lain.



12. Mereka mungkin memerlukan kita mengajar mereka lebih daripada
sekali - ade setgh budak kene byk kali ajar, baru dia faham. Mcm anmum
punya iklan tu..Wardina tunjuk byk kali baru anak dia faham. Anak saya
sendiri dalam satu hari ntah berapa kali dia tunjuk kat mata dia suruh
saya sebut eye, tunjuk kat telinga suruh sebut ear. Jgn marah sbb kalau
marah nnt terbantut la proses pembelajaran dia.



13. Luangkanlah masa bersama anak anda diluar rumah, peganglah tangan
anak-anak apabila anda berjalan dengan mereka . Mereka tentu akan merasa
kepentingan kehadiran mereka dalam kehidupan anda suami isteri. Bila
saya baca ni, rasanya tak salah la saya selalu pimpin tangan anak2 even
dalam rumah pun. Bila nak ajak dia bangun je, saya hulur tangan. Even
nak kedapur pun untuk bancuh susu diorg. Kalau kat luar mmg lah sah2
pegang sbb saya jenis serabut perut takut anak terlari tgh jalan ke.



14. Dengarlah mimpi ngeri anak-anak anda. Mimpi ngeri mereka adalah
begitu real dalam dunia mereka - jadilah pendengar setia mereka. Kalau
pasangan kita mimpi pun apa salahnya kita dengar. Best hape dengar
cerita dari mimpi. Mcm drama tapi takde skrip, takde director, dan takde
siaran ulang tayang.



15. Hargailah permainan kesayangan anak anda. Mereka juga dalam masa
yang sama akan menghargai barang-barang kesayangan anda. Elakkan
daripada membuang barang kesayangan mereka walaupun sudah rosak.
Mintalah kebenaran mereka sebelum berbuat demikian.



16. Janganlah membiarkan anak-anak anda tidur tanpa ciuman selamat
malam - biasakan ajar dia salam kita sebelum lena. Cium dahi diorg esp
mak nya..mcm cerita omputeh kan selalu dia gi bilik tidur anak n
selimutkan diorg.



17. Terimalah yang kadangkala anda bukanlah ibubapa yang sempurna. Ini
akan mengurangkan stress menjadi ibu bapa. Ada masa anak kata papa ni
garangla.. tu sbnrnya dia menegur so, ubahla. Jgn jadi too perfectionist
pada anak2. nnt mereka rendah diri.



18. Jangan selalu membawa bebanan kerja pejabat ke rumah. Anak-anak
akan belajar bahawa kerja pejabat selalunya lebih penting daripada
keluarga. Dan mereka juga akan terasa kurang kasih sayang bila kita
mengadap benda lain. Kalau anak2 dah sekolah, biasakan tolong mereka
siapkan kerja rumah, atau kita sendiri bg latihan dan perati setiap hari
peralihan dia belajar dari satu topik ke topik. Bantu dia belajar lebih
dari yg cikgu dia ajar.



19. Anak menangis untuk melegakan keresahan mereka tetapi kadangkala
cuma untuk sound effect sahaja. Bagaimanapun dengarilah mereka, dua
puluh tahun dari sekarang anda pula yang akan menangis apabila rumah
mula terasa sunyi. Anak-anak anda mula sibuk mendengar tangisan anak
mereka sendiri. Hoo..seram. tapi ada betulnya. Buatlah sesuatu supaya
mereka tak menjauh dari kita. Semoga kita tidak sunyi dihari tua kita.



20. Anak-anak juga mempunyai perasaan seperti anda. hargailah perasaan
mereka supaya mereka juga menghargai dan memahami perasaan kita

50 Ways to Manage Your Time Tips (Part I)

Tanggungjawab memang lebih dari masa yang kita ada,so nak tak nak kita kena cari jalan nak manage masa supaya bleh buat apa2 yg kita nak buat. Nih saje nak share tips2 nak manage masa untuk sahabat-sahabat sekalian, copy dari www.ineedmoretime. com . Ada 50 sume tapi ana copy sket2.

Konklusi yg bleh dibuat from tips2 ni: Simple things do help when it comes to time management.

12 Top Time Savers

1. Reserve an hour each day. Close your door, turn off the phone and concentrate on priorities. It's amazing what you can accomplish in one uninterrupted hour.

2. Write it down. Making a master list of everything you need to do will declutter your mind and reduce your stress level. Each day, move a few of these items to your daily to-do list.

3. Keep a running list of errands to do. Group them together by location and do everything at once. Learn more at www.ineedmoretime. com/affoffice. htm.

4. Delegate! Taking the time to teach someone else to complete a task for you will ultimately free up your time for more important things. For one week, analyze each thing you must do and ask yourself, "Am I the person who must do this or should I find someone else to do it?"

5. Develop forms. Is there a sales letter that you write every week? Make a master on the computer. Think about things you do daily and ask yourself if there is a way to standardize those tasks.

6. Make a list of things you can do in five minutes or less. (Examples: write a note to a friend, straighten a drawer, make a quick phone call). The next time you have a few minutes to spare, choose something from your list to do.

7. Prioritize, Prioritize! It is better to accomplish three very important projects in a day than it is to finish 20 low priority tasks. Think about this as you plan your days.

8. Stock up on supplies. Keep the basics such as stamps, envelopes, notepads and favorite pens in your desk and ready to go. Buy in bulk to save money and time.

9. Keep a reading file.Place letters, memos, reports, newspaper articles (cut out of the paper), magazines articles (removed from the magazines) in it. When you are stuck in traffic or sitting in a doctor's office, pull out your file and read something meaningful to pass the time.

10. Do like tasks together. Make all your phone calls together. Run all your errands during lunch hour one day per week. Write thank you cards to customers once a week. Have a daily, 15-minute meeting with your assistant.

11. Reduce interruptions. Have everyone in the company learn and use these time-saving tips. Some businesspeople put a flag on their door or their cubicle when they are not to be interrupted.

12. Get organized! You can save an hour per day by decluttering and organizing your desk, files and paperwork.

Organize Your Desk in 8 Steps

13. Start at the beginning. Remove everything from your desktop. Put back only the necessities and keep a large clean space for current projects. What are the necessities? Phone, notepad, calendar, step file organizer, current project. Keep cutesy items in sight but off your desk.

14. Place your phone. Put your phone on the left side of your desk if you're right handed and on the right side if you're left handed.

15. Keep a spiral notebook by the phone for messages. Start with the date each day. By doing this, you will have reference info when you need it.

16. Keep or delete? If you use something every day leave it in your desk; if you use something once a week, you should be able to reach it from your chair; if you use something once a month keep it in your office or work area. If you use something less than once a month, keep it elsewhere.

17. Look for ways to daily improve your life. Www.ineedmoretime. com offers various organizing services and products to help you have a better quality of life.

18. Keep your office supplies in one drawer. Keep only the supplies you use frequently in your desk. Do you really need 25 pens and 15 packages of salt?

19. Sort through your desk files. Keep only personal files and files that you refer to weekly in your desk drawers.

20. Look around. End each day (or at least each week) by tidying up your desk and returning everything to its place. (Yes, everything should have a place.)

Bosnia Herzegovenia: Umat Islam masih dihina

Baru saja rasanya kita dikejutkan dengan berita wanita Iraq, Sabrin Al-Janabi dirogol oleh tentera dan polis dan sebelum itu, seorang tentera AS didapati bersalah atas tuduhan merogol dan membakar seorang gadis Iraq bersama keluarganya. Walaupun dijatuhi hukuman 100 tahun penjara, namun, ia masih belum cukup untuk mengkambus keganasan-keganasan tentera AS sepanjang kempen mereka terhadap umat islam . Hutang di Abu Ghraib dan Guantanamo Bay , masih banyak untuk dituntut.

Kini, kita sekali lagi bersedih atas keputusan Mahkamah Dunia di The Hague yang menyatakan Serbia tidak bersalah atas ‘genocide’ yang berlaku di Bosnia semasa perang 92-95 yang menyaksikan hampir 100, 000 orang awam disembelih. Beribu-ribu wanita diperkosa dan dibunuh.

‘ Dan tidak akan sekali-kali yahudi dan nasrani redha kepada kamu sehingga kamu mengikut jejak langkah mereka’- quran

Menarik sungguh keputusan yang dibacakan Mahkamah Dunia yang seolah-olah menyatakan bahawa memang berlaku ‘genocide’ di Bosnia , namun tidak dapat dipastikan siapa yang melakukannya. Walhal beratus-ratus saksi dipanggil memberikan kenyataan mereka terhadap perbicaraan yang panjang ini.

"I am stunned. This is terrible - I saw with my own eyes who started this war and who kept up the aggression. It was the Serbs." -Hedija Krdzic- al-jazeera

Alahai umat islam! Sudahlah jatuh ditimpa tangga. Kasihan nasibmu akan Bosnia , saudara-saudara mu tidak mampu berbuat apa-apa melainkan menulis sajak-sajak menangisimu.

Serbia yang terselamat dari pampasan berbilion-bilion dollar kerana keputusan ini, pastinya tidak perlu merasai apa-apa penyesalan dari keganasan yang dilakukan. Pastinya Milosevic kini benar-benar ‘Rest in Peace’.

Mari kita sama-sama fikirkan? Mengapa ini boleh berlaku? Mana salahnya? Bosnia adalah negara umat Islam di Balkan bersama-sama Albania dan Kosovo. Mereka menerima Islam pada kurun ke 14 setelah kedatangan Turki.

Kita bertanya manakah peranan OIC dalam perkara ini. Setakat artikel ini ditulis, belum kedengaran lagi mana-mana pemimpin negara Islam atau pemimpin OIC mengeluarkan kenyataan mereka. Mungkin inilah yang dimaksudkan dengan pemimpin bacul. Bacul untuk bangun mempertahankan ummah.

Namun, tidak patut kita salahkan 100% ke atas pemimpin, kerana kita yang memilih mereka. Ya, tanggungjawab memilih itu ada di tangan kita. Kita yang menentukan mereka. Jadi, pastinya kita ada saham dalam perkara ini. Kita berhutang dengan syuhada’ di Bosnia.

Kita yang memilih untuk tidak peduli tentang sekeliling. Kita yang memilih untuk tidak membaca akhbar. Kita yang memilih untuk tidak membelek cerita-cerita yang menimpa umat islam. Kita yang memilih untuk membenci politik. Kita memilih untuk tidak peduli siapa yang memimpin. Kita yang memilih untuk memisahkan agama dan politik. Nah! Inilah yang kita dapat. Hak saudara kita dihina, ke darjat yang paling rendah.

‘Jihad yang paling afdhal ialah berkata benar di hadapan raja yang zalim’ -hadis

Sudahlah dihina di dalam perang yang berat sebelah. Kemudian dihina lagi kerana terpaksa merayu mahkamah dunia di Belanda, negara ‘red light district’ untuk membicarakan isu kemanusiaan. Kini, dihina lagi kerana terpaksa menerima keputusan yang tidak masuk akal dan berat sebelah.

‘ Akan tiba satu masa di mana umatku akan diratah oleh musuh-musuhnya seperti lauk yang terhidang’ –mafhum hadis

Ya rasulullah, alangkah benarnya hadismu! Kami kini benar-benar terhina dan diratah oleh musuh-musuh islam.

‘ ummatku diserang penyakit al-wahn, cintakan dunia dan takutkan mati’ –mafhum hadis

Umat islam Bosnia kini tahu, mereka tidak boleh mengharapkan sesiapa melainkan diri mereka sendiri untuk bangun mempertahankan hak mereka. Pastinya, para ‘survivor’ akan terus menceritakan hal yang sebenar kepada anak cucu mereka agar menjadi peringatan supaya generasi akan datang akan tetap berpegang teguh dengan Islam. Semoga Allah akan melahirkan seorang wira untuk membela semula nasib Bosnia yang tertindas. Amin.

"We who were in Bosnia know what happened here right from the beginning of the war and I know what I will teach my kids.- Zeljko Komsic

Hukum menyentuh kulit wanita yg bukan mahram

Aduhai manusia..... Tidak takutkah kamu? Sesungguhnya orang yg pertama disoal di Akhirat kelak adalah pemimpin..."Adakah kamu menggunakan kuasa untuk mengajak manusia kepada Allah, dan menyuruh kepada maaruf, dan melarang yg mungkar??"

Daripada satu hadis yang diriwayatkan daripada ibnu majah menyatakan bahawa "Bergomolan dengan babi (khinzir) itu adalah lebih baik berbanding dengan bersentuhan (secara sengaja) dengan wanita yang bukan mahram".

Bersentuhan (dengan sengaja & apatah lagi bertujuan syahwat) adalah berdosa dan wajib bertaubat (bagi membersihkan dosa). Sedangkan menyentuh anjing tidaklah berdosa dan hanya perlu disuci (bukan bertaubat). Menyentuh anjing bukanlah satu kesalahan (dosa) atau maksiat. Tetapi, menyentuh wanita bukan mahram adalah berdosa dan merupakan maksiat.

Di dalam satu riwayat hadis yang lain yang maksudnya, "Sesungguhnya kepala yang ditusuk dengan besi itu lebih baik daripada menyentuh kaum yang bukan sejenis yang tidak halal baginya. (Riwayat At Tabrani dan Baihaqi)”

Katakanlah lagi (kepadanya): Adakah sama orang-orang yang mengetahui dengan orang-orang yang tidak mengetahui? Sesungguhnya orang-orang yang dapat mengambil pelajaran dan peringatan hanyalah orang-orang yang berakal sempurna". (Surah Zumar: 9)

My Special Study Course..

This is eventually the 2nd last week Of my 4weeks Special Study Cource....Yet, I'm still struggling with the report....arrhhhhggg....(where has my momentum gone??)

Not intended to write more in this entry!

Hanya Mampu Berharap...

BismiLlahirahmanirahim.....

Hanya mampu berharap,
Dari tinta hati seorang wanita....

Menjadi 'perhiasan dunia' bukanlah apa yg diidamkan,
Bahkan ia adalah satu 'perjuangan'
Sebagaimana kaum adam memerangi musuh dimedan perang..
Tampak remeh namun bebannya terlampau mencengkam...

Lantas, golakan hati menjadi kencang,
Seiring setiap detik yg berlalu,
Bergelut menangkis noda2 kemaksiatan..

Masih ingin mengharap,
Dipenjuru hati yang terisi satu ruang,
harap dipenuhi insan KAMIL...
yg InshaAllah mampu memberikan cahaya Iman..
bagi menguat dan menyokong satu-satunya perjuangan Islam...

Mahu merayu, hanya PadaMu...
Biarlah dipilih yang paling baik bagiku..
Mahu menjerit sayu, hanya PadaMu..
Biarlah tiada lagi noda menghambat...
biarlah ia sama2 dilaknat...
oleh hati2 kami yang berserah bulat padaMU

hanya mampu berharap..
Muhasabahlah diri kita wahai teman tersayang!....


salam

a search

In the name of Allah the most gracious the most merciful

Today, my partner who is a local student here in UK asked me about 'halal'. We were having our lunch together in a vegetarian restaurant. She is a vegetarian obviously. Then i start telling her that halal is used to describe things that are allowed in Islam. Those included meat which has to be from certain animal that was killed in a certain ways. The opposite of halal is haram e.g alcohol. She nodded and said that alcohol lead people doing silly things. I was releaf with her remark.

While we were walking to the hospital, she said again about her boyfriend's brother who had converted into Islam. She added that she was interested to know more about Islam herself.........

My journey to know my own religion starts when i started to tell about it to another person......